Preconception

Preconception

Whether you’re pondering pregnancy or already trying to get pregnant, you’ll find a wealth of preconception information here.

 

Relationships

As much as we'd like to believe that having a baby won't change a thing — including relationships with your partner, family or friends — the bottom line is that children bring a new dynamic into your life. The decision to have a baby is a big one, and you should ask yourself these 10 questions to see if you're emotionally prepared before you make your final decision. Once you've made the decision to move forward, you may find the clinical considerations of trying to conceive have taken some of the fun and spontaneity out of your relationship with your partner. Read some suggestions for bringing back that spark from Vancouver life coach Sharla Vellek.

Pondering Pregnancy

Few things change your life more than having a baby. Whether you are just starting to contemplate having a baby or it's the only thing on your mind, Southwest Washington Medical Center's team of obstetrics specialists are here to help. Find an upcoming Pondering Pregnancy class that works for you.

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Are you ready emotionally?

Being a parent is a full-time job. Before you get pregnant, think about the emotional and lifestyle issues you will face as a parent. It’s important for you and your partner to agree on most of the major issues, or begin discussing your differences, before you conceive. Only you can decide if you're emotionally ready for a baby.

Ask yourself these 10 questions:

  1. Why do you want to have a baby? Do you want to have a baby or is your partner, parent or someone pressuring you?
  2. How will a child affect your relationship with your partner? Are you both ready to become parents?
  3. If you’re not in a relationship, are you prepared to raise a child alone? Who will help you? Read the full article>

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Ask the Expert


Q: Now that my husband and I have decided to try to have a baby, our sex life has taken a nosedive. Being intimate used to be a spontaneous, important part of our life, but now it just seems like work. What can I do to remain positive about this new twist on our life? What can I do to make our relationship better right now?

A: What an amazing, valuable question! It is so important to maintain this part of your relationship and keep it healthy. My husband and I have been faced with these same questions. I would encourage you to get that babysitter and take your honey out for dinner – and have a conversation. Discuss what sex means for each of you. Typically for women it is about love, comfort, feeling cared for. For men it is the above and a physical release. You can ask each other these questions: How many times per week is ideal for your partner? What time of day does he prefer?  Is mid morning better for you when the baby is napping and you are still AWAKE? Maybe a great time for you is on the weekends but during the week, maybe take care of your honey? That counts as two for him! Read the full answer >

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Ask the Expert is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Never delay or disregard seeking professional medical advice from your physician or other qualified health provider because of something you have read here.

Pregancy Quick GuideBook Review:

The Conception Chronicles: The Uncensored Truth About Sex, Love & Marriage When You're Trying to Get Pregnant
 

by Patty Doyle Debano, Courtney Menzel and Shelly Sutphen

When we first started down the baby-making path, we thought we'd be pregnant in no time. We'd just toss out our birth control pills and before we knew it, we'd be rocking our little one to sleep. Little did we know what was in store for us, or the energy it would take to face all of the crazy, unpredictable and (sometimes) irrational emotions we felt along the way. Neither did our husbands. Sound familiar?

  • If your idea of foreplay is screaming, "I'm ovulating; it's time!!!" to your oblivious husband...
  • If your ovulation schedule is ruling your life and every trip to the drug store includes a bulk purchase of pregnancy sticks...
  • If you're running out of answers to the chronic questioning from the pregnancy paparazzi about your plans for parenthood ...

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Latest Posts Share your story

We want to hear about your preconception experiences. Maybe you had a difficult time conceiving and found a specialist locally who really helped. Or maybe you have a tip to share with other couples who are trying to conceive. Join the community today to share your experiences. Or select a blog from the list below to read other hopeful parents’ stories.

 

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Consignment Heaven (by nikkik on 1-May-09; 2 comments)

Getting pregnant...and not getting pregnant (by emmareaghansmommy on 20-Apr-09; 5 comments)

"When is the 'right' time for a family?" (by drchang on 20-Apr-09; 0 comments)

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"Being Dad" Documentary - Must See! (by nikkik on 9-Aug-08; 1 comments)

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Nine days past her due date, Sara Howe was awakened at 3:00AM when her water broke. Thrilled that the long wait was finally over, Sara and her husband David packed up and headed to Southwest Washington Medical Center. By 5:00AM they were comfortably settled into one of Southwest’s Labor Delivery Recovery and Postpartum rooms, ready for action. But four hours later, Sara contractions had still not progressed so her midwife started her on Pitocin. Soon the contractions kicked in and Sara was well on her way.

At around eight o’clock the next morning, it was time for Sara to start pushing. So she pushed. And she pushed, and she pushed, and she pushed. "The first few hours of pushing went by without me realizing the time," remarked Sara. "But around the fourth hour I started to wonder if I was still making progress. That is when the encouragement of my midwife, husband and the Southwest nursing staff kept me going. It was like I had my own cheering section."

Unfortunately, even with all the support and encouragement, Sara’s labor was not progressing because her baby’s head was tilted in the birth canal. Neither Sara or her midwife wanted her to have a Cesarean section after all that work, so her midwife suggested an assisted delivery. Read more >

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