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Q: I’m pregnant with our third child. Between work, raising our family and trying to keep up with housework and family commitments, I feel overwhelmed all the time. I find myself crying over the smallest things, and just feel out of control for the first time in my life. How can I get my life back? 

A: Being pregnant is the most rewarding, yet most difficult time. I truly believe you will be fine because you recognize that you are overwhelmed. So first, learn to only have five commitments at one time. Second, ask for help right now. Being pregnant is a job. LOL!! Seriously, reach out to a girlfriend, your mom or your husband and tell them how you feel and ASK. For me, asking was really, really tough for awhile until I did it and now I realize how much weight is lifted when I do ask for help. Are your children able to help clean? Can you minimize some of the family commitments for awhile until things feel in more control? Take advantage of this time to let some things go and spend more time with your family. A wise woman of six once told me, cherish these times and let the small things go because they do go away and you will miss them. 

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Book Review:

Yes, You're Pregnant, But What About Me?

by Kevin Nealon

At fifty-three, Kevin Nealon thought he had it all: a massive international celebrity with legions of loyal fans; a fabulous modeling career; hundreds of millions of dollars in the bank; and the most recognizable face on the planet. Nealon had accomplished the impossible: a thirty-year career in show business with only limited trips to rehab. But just like every other celebrity, he felt that was not enough. The perpetually insatiable Nealon wanted more, and for him more meant a little addition that drooled, burped, and pooped (no, not a Pomeranian).

Now, in his first-ever book, Nealon tells the outrageous story of how he battled through aching joints, Milano cookie cravings, and a rapidly receding hairline to become a first-time dad at an age when most fathers are packing their kids off to college. Offering hysterical commentary about his fickle, often hormonal, road to belated and bloated fatherhood, Nealon guides you through the delivery room and beyond, discussing how his past, his wife, and his neuroses all converged in a montage of side-splitting insecurities during the months leading up to the birth of his son. Read the full review >

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